WHEN Rosey Davidson dropped her children off at the school gate, she was completely beside herself.
The flawless mother of three has already made sure her kids have done their homework and eaten a healthy breakfast – and there’s no chance of an important book being left behind.
But while Rosey, who has children aged ten, seven and two, makes motherhood look effortless, she says all parents can do what she does.
In a new survey, 97 percent of moms said they feel pressure to “do everything and be everything” while #perfectparenting is trending with over 2.4 million views on TikTok.
But child sleep consultant Rosey, who is never a minute late or forgets a school function and says she is often asked by other mothers how she does it, believes it’s all about time management.
Echoing influencer Molly-Mae Hague’s comments on success, she says: “We all have the same 24 hours in the day, it’s not like I have an extra one.”
“You have to look at what you have, what you need to do, when it needs to be done and plan accordingly.
“I’m lucky in that I have a supportive husband and parents, but I also have three children and a full-time job that I have to juggle – managing three other people.
“And I work hard to make sure everything runs smoothly. It’s what works for our family.
“Other mothers call me perfect and say I don’t know how to do everything and hold everything together.
“But there’s actually no such thing.”
Rosey, who lives in Barnet, north London, with husband Daniel, 44, a commercial manager, admits it took some time to achieve this.
She says: “It took me years to get to this stage.
“The key is planning, prioritizing and acknowledging the non-negotiables, like school pick-up time.”
“We also have a rigid routine. My day is planned out to the half hour.
“I even took 15-minute breaks to go for a walk and clear my head.
“And my husband and I have two briefings a day, morning and evening, to make sure we both know what’s happening.
“He never complains. It makes his life easier.”
“It works for my family, so I like it or lump it. It’s me who lives it and I don’t force it on anyone.”
Rosey believes in “me time” and physical fitness for health and therefore goes to the gym or works out at least three times a week.
She doesn’t leave the house without makeup and combed hair and says: “I would never take the children to school without a shower, skin care and basic makeup.”
“I don’t want to walk out the door without looking presentable.
“We need to model to our children that we respect ourselves and our workday.”
“While I don’t judge other mothers and if it works out for them that’s fine, I would never show up unwashed in last night’s pajamas.
“I don’t believe it when people say they don’t have time to get dressed and brush their hair.
“It’s like saying you don’t have time to eat because you do.”
Rosey gives her children responsibility and distributes tasks at an early age.
She says: “They know that after eating they have to clear their plates and tidy up their toys.
“I tell them to sort the laundry and they take their piles upstairs and put them away.
“It’s another way to create boundaries and expectations.
“They also know that they have to get up, brush their teeth, get dressed and eat breakfast in the correct order.
“They prepare their own shoes and coats and I will lay out their uniforms and sort their school bags the night before – so there is no rush.
“For me, an important part of their upbringing is to involve them in household chores.
“If you get them involved early, you prepare them for life.
“All children enjoy doing this, you have to put it in a positive way and say: ‘Come and help mommy with the washing’ when they are little children.”
“Children thrive on having boundaries.
“When they know what they are doing, they feel safe and secure.
“If there is no structure, such as meal times and bedtimes, life can become chaotic.
“My children go to school rested, relaxed and ready for the day because there is no panic.”
Rosey wakes up at 7 a.m. and is usually in bed by 11 p.m. However, when she is particularly busy with work, she also stays up later.
She starts her day by assessing what needs to be done and then prioritizing and setting a schedule.
The meal will be planned three days in advance and she and Daniel will figure out who is cooking.
She says: “Planning our meals results in much less food waste.
“If there are leftovers, parents should decide whether to eat them the next day or, if not, put them in the freezer.
“If you don’t know what you have, you may end up rushing to buy something that’s much more expensive.”
Rosey, who runs website Just Chill Baby Sleep and counts fitness expert Joe Wicks and former Big Brother winner Kate Lawler among her clients, has been trolled in the past after posting about her parenting ethics.
But she says, “I’m not saying this is what you should do, but what you can do to make your life run more smoothly.”
“Not everyone wants to be like me, and that’s okay.
“But people ask me how I do it and are impressed that I have three children, a stressful job and am not stressed.
“And that’s how I do it. I’m not superwoman, but I am super organized.
“Children thrive on stability, predictability and routine. Otherwise, they may be anxious.
“You need a solid foundation at home – and that’s your job.”